You Really Hurt Me. (But Tell Me Your Side of It--I'm Listening!) — Letter-Writing Tutorial


Love letters should be carefully planned and written. They are often read, re-read, and kept indefinitely. Love letters are very personal and sensitive, and can present a problem unless they are used on occasions such as Valentine's Day or an anniversary.


1. Begin with positive aspects of your relationship to help soften your emotions.

2. Explain exactly what your loved one did or said to hurt you and when it happened.

3. Explain how much your feelings are hurt, but don't get too emotional and don't beg!

4. Acknowledge the fact that there might be an innocent explanation for what happened.

5. Stick to the point; don't complain or bring up old problems that have been resolved.

6. Be ready to accept the worst scenario and the possible break-up of your relationship.

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