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Example Letter #1
I feel I should inform you that after several years of trying to reconcile our differences, John and I are separating. Our divorce will be final on June 30. His work abroad and mine in the theater have led us down two very different paths, and we both feel it best to go our separate ways.
I will continue to live in the same place with the children, and hope you will visit when you are in the area. Thank you for being such a good friend. I have sincerely appreciated your support.
Example Letter #2
I am sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but John and I divorced last week. We reached the point where we hardly knew each other.
Because you have been such a good friend, I wanted to tell you directly. I will continue to live in our home with the children, and John has moved to an apartment at 1600 Main Street. I appreciate your friendship. Please keep in touch.
Example Letter #3
I would rather you heard it from me first: Jane and I are separating. Our divorce will be final by October.
You have known us well enough to understand how this seems to be the best solution.
Jane will be moving back to Springfield, her hometown. Meanwhile, I expect you will see a bit more of my face around your offices. I appreciate having good friends at a time like this.
Example Letter #4
I am sorry to inform you that Jane and I separated last March, and our divorce will be final sometime next month. I know this will cause our friends some of the same pain and sadness we have felt. We are sorry that we have been unable to resolve our differences, but we believe this decision is in everyone's best interests. Jane and the girls have moved to a condominium across town. Their new address is
648 Maple Lane #2, Springfield, Kansas 12345. My son Steven and I are still living at our old address; however, Jane and I both see the children on a regular basis.
I have always valued your friendship, so I wanted you to hear about this change in our lives from me. Although this is a difficult time for all of us, we are making the necessary adjustments and moving forward in our lives. Although we don't see each other often, I appreciate the friendship and support you have given me over the years, and hope we can continue to stay in touch.
This letter is to inform persons who need to know that your circumstances have changed. It conveys information such as where each family member (including your children) will be living, and whether you will be using different names. It need not explain everything, since all parties involved have the right to privacy. Sending the announcement with some other seasonal greetings can help soften the impact.
1 Explain at the outset that you have been divorced.
2 Mention any reasons for the divorce that you feel are appropriate for the reader to know.
3 Explain your current situation to the reader, and mention a desire to continue the relationship.